The Next Generation of Men Are Watching

I met many men this week who have carried their pain for too long. Our body spends great amounts of energy trying to keep emotional pain suppressed within. I strongly believe that darkness begs to see the light of day, and that healing begins when we put a voice to our pain. When we neglect painful emotions, they have a tendency to escape in unhealthy and inappropriate ways. For example, I spent years being so angry and yet I had no idea why I was even angry. Anger is a secondary emotion, and in order for me to heal I…

World Suicide Prevention Day

Men make up 75% of all suicides in Canada. However, men are less likely to seek help for their mental health. September 10th is World Suicide Prevention Day. This picture was captured on my wedding day. I never had a brother, but Justin was the closest thing to it.  Little did I know that just over one year later he would die by suicide. Justin and I shared a similar journey. We both struggled with mental illness and addictions, and yet for reasons I will never truly know, he is no longer here and I remain.  This sudden loss left…

It's Not Always Racism

A man recently shared a very intriguing story about his first few days as an immigrant in Canada. Naturally, he was told that he needed to experience Tim Hortons Coffee. (What is more Canadian than that?) As he stood in line he watched a Caucasian woman behind the counter smile at each customer while they placed their order. That same smile was present as she handed each customer their coffee. Finally, it was his turn. The moment after he expressed his desire for a medium double-double, the woman’s entire expression changed. The smile vanished and her face went cold. When…

Fundraiser for Men's Camping Trip

My friend, Tommy Laplante, identified a need in the community, and created a program to match that need. Tommy understands the value of land-based healing, and will be taking men camping and fishing. This initiative is taking place through the Saskatoon Indian & Metis Friendship Centre. The purpose of this outing is to promote comradery and leadership development for this group of men that frequent their facility. Considering that Saskatoon has some of the highest HIV rates in the country, campers will also receive education on HIV and addiction. There in no funding for this program and this is where…

Perspective is Everything. What Do You See?

What do you see when you look at this image? When I show this to an audience, many reply with the same automatic response: A black dot. I then attempt to make a joke and say something like, “If you see a clown’s face we need to talk.” But why is it that the majority of individuals focus their attention on the black dot opposed to all of the white surrounding it? Think about the media for a moment. The media tends to focus primarily on this black dot, and reports the world through a dark lens. Stories are discussed…

How Do You Respond to Life's Challenges?

What would you do if you woke up in a room that was completely dark? I mean the type of darkness where you can’t even see your own hand in front of your face. Do you sit there motionless? Do you scream for help? Or, do you get up and search for a way out? I believe that your response is a reflection of how you react when life throws you a challenge. When life knocks you down, do you sit there like a victim stating, “life is not fair” or “why me?” Or, do you use your voice in…