Are You Existing or Are You Living?

I believe that there are two types of people in this world. There are those who exist, and then there are those who live. Which one are you? To exist is easy. It is like being on autopilot where every day tends to repeat itself. In this state, you do not step outside of your comfort zone, you do not take risks, and therefore you do not grow. People who exist are more likely to stay in the same unhealthy relationship, go to the same job they dread, and simply serve their time in the game of life. To live,…

Letting Go of An Addict

  One of the most heart-wrenching situations anyone can experience is watching a loved one struggle with addictions   You are forced to have front row seats to a horrific show where you watch that individual deteriorate in front of your eyes. In these times, it can be easy to feel both helpless and resentful towards this person who is now becoming a shadow of the person you once knew. Previous attempts to approach this individual likely resulted in their denial or piercing words of anger. Eventually, after exhaustive attempts to help them, one fact will stand out like black on…

Paula's Story: When the Drugs Don't Work

My full name is Paula Jacobs-St. Germaine. I want to use my real name in this story because the more that I own it and recognize it for what it is, the better I can feel about the remorse and shame of the past. I started drinking at the age of six. The mysterious confidence that wine gave me was like no other. It was the most enticing courage that I had ever experienced, and I would one day exchange this for my very own soul. By the age of seven, a lot of damage had already been done to…

How Does A Homeless Person Spend Their Money?

The answer is quite simple. It is none of your business. I walked downtown today and as usual, there were a few homeless people sitting on the sidewalk. With hat in hand, I observed one man politely asked the person in front of me if he could spare any change. This man deliberately stopped, looked down towards the person by his feet, and boldly stated, “Why? So you can buy alcohol or drugs?” The first thing that ran through my mind was the words of an elder. The only time to look down on another person if we are helping…

Born Resilient: A Sneak Peak Into Chapter 1

While it is easier to deflect your pain, the only way out is through. Our reaction to physical pain is not the same as our reaction to emotional pain. When we experience a cut or a broken arm, we are quick to act, and will immediately tend to our wound and try to progress towards healing. On the other hand, when we are injured on an emotional level, we rarely give this wound the immediate attention it deserves. This is unfortunate because emotional pain has the capacity to impact our lives to a much greater degree than physical pain. Unmanaged…