COVID-19 and Grief

This image was taken during my last keynote before COVID-19. As time ticks on I am finding that one of the greatest emotions I am feeling is grief. After spending so many years trying to harm or kill myself this was my redemption. However, while there is loss for all of us, I have learned to embrace it, feel it, let it go and not get stuck there. Like you, I am thinking outside of the box and am finding new and creative ways to do what I love. Yes. This is a difficult time. But we were not meant…

How Do I Help A Loved One Struggling with an Addiction?

  One of the most painful things to experience is watching the person you love deteriorate in front of your eyes. At this point, it can be easy to feel both helpless and resentful towards this person who is now becoming a shadow of the person you once knew. Previous attempts to approach this individual likely resulted in their denial or piercing words of anger. Eventually, after exhaustive attempts to help them, one fact will stand out like black on white… In life, all that we can control is self.   There is a reason that Al-Anon selected this idea…

How To Manage Your Stress

Well… technically I would say that breathing is the best tool to manage stress. However, this phrase is more catchy.   How much time and energy do you give to the factors that are out of your control?    I would encourage you to make a list of the things that are in your control, and another list that identifies the things that are out of control. Then sit back, and identify where you let your eyes rest. For me, the definition of anxiety is trying to control the things that are out of your control. It’s time to take…

4 Lessons Learned from Suicide

Silence is not the answer. It’s time to talk openly about suicide.   I have spent the last few months traveling to several communities to discuss this prevalent issue of suicide, and I wanted to share a few of the lessons I have learned. 1. Ask the tough question, “Are you feeling suicidal?” Pay attention to the guts. If you think there is a problem then there probably is. At that point it is important to ask this difficult question. Yet, I think we fear asking the question because we fear the response. What happens if the person you care about…