How I Learned To Let Go

If something is starting to feel out of control, then it probably is. There are countless circumstances around us that we have no control over. We have no power over another person’s thoughts, attitudes, or actions. What we do have power over is how we react in response to them. Everyone deserves to have the freedom to live life on their own terms. The more that we focus on what lies within our control, the more power we have. From this place, we can focus on our own journey while maintaining a level of inner peace. I never had a…

Paula's Story: When the Drugs Don't Work

My full name is Paula Jacobs-St. Germaine. I want to use my real name in this story because the more that I own it and recognize it for what it is, the better I can feel about the remorse and shame of the past. I started drinking at the age of six. The mysterious confidence that wine gave me was like no other. It was the most enticing courage that I had ever experienced, and I would one day exchange this for my very own soul. By the age of seven, a lot of damage had already been done to…

The Two Most Powerful Words: "Me Too"

I write this blog for every man out there who has been sexually abused.   This is for the man who truly understands my shame, and continues to suffer in silence.   It’s time to talk, and be free from our shame.   When an event takes place that impacts us at a deep emotional level, our bodies have the ability to block such traumatic events from our memory. Our body understands that if it does not bury this trauma deep within, then it is going to be very difficult to navigate through life. This is the body’s way of protecting…

How I First Got Paid to Speak

People often ask me how I became a motivational keynote speaker. Well, please sit back, relax and I will tell you. My most challenging addiction to recover from was not alcohol, but rather gambling. Why? Society has identified alcohol as a legitimate addiction for decades, and resources can be found with ease. Gambling on the other hand is constantly glamourized, is not widely recognized as an addiction, and the resources for problem gamblers are sparse in comparison. After attending my first Gamblers Anonymous meeting in Edmonton it became clear that my fellow problem gamblers had also suffered in silence from…

Born Resilient: A Sneak Peak Into Chapter 1

While it is easier to deflect your pain, the only way out is through. Our reaction to physical pain is not the same as our reaction to emotional pain. When we experience a cut or a broken arm, we are quick to act, and will immediately tend to our wound and try to progress towards healing. On the other hand, when we are injured on an emotional level, we rarely give this wound the immediate attention it deserves. This is unfortunate because emotional pain has the capacity to impact our lives to a much greater degree than physical pain. Unmanaged…