How Do I Help A Loved One Struggling with an Addiction?

  One of the most painful things to experience is watching the person you love deteriorate in front of your eyes. At this point, it can be easy to feel both helpless and resentful towards this person who is now becoming a shadow of the person you once knew. Previous attempts to approach this individual likely resulted in their denial or piercing words of anger. Eventually, after exhaustive attempts to help them, one fact will stand out like black on white… In life, all that we can control is self.   There is a reason that Al-Anon selected this idea…

10 Years Sober and Proud

Today marks 10 years of sobriety.  I am emotional even writing that. The reality is that nothing in my life would be possible without my sobriety. Nothing. I would not be blessed with a beautiful wife, four incredible sons, and a home not a house. From day one my wife, Tanya, said we were moving forward, not backward. She was (and always will be) my rock. I want to share 3 key lessons that I have learned along the way. 1. Use Your Voice in Times of Need Silence has never equalled strength. Staying behind closed doors can make us…

The 6 Words that Saved My Life

Shame is toxic, and it damn near killed me. After being silent for so many years, it is time to put a voice to my own pain and healing from sexual abuse. I spoke about this in a recent blog “The 2 Most Powerful Words: Me Too” However, rather than write more about this, I am posting this video. No matter what you are going through in life, please just know that you are not alone.  

Letting Go of An Addict

  One of the most heart-wrenching situations anyone can experience is watching a loved one struggle with addictions   You are forced to have front row seats to a horrific show where you watch that individual deteriorate in front of your eyes. In these times, it can be easy to feel both helpless and resentful towards this person who is now becoming a shadow of the person you once knew. Previous attempts to approach this individual likely resulted in their denial or piercing words of anger. Eventually, after exhaustive attempts to help them, one fact will stand out like black on…