Your Family Deserves the Best Version of You

When I pull into my driveway after work, my eyes rest on the ribbons hanging from my rear-view mirror. This is my personal car wash. This is my reminder to clear any negative energy that I may have picked up throughout the day. This is my reminder to give my family the same kindness and respect that I deliver to those around me in my place of work. Early in my career I would walk through the doors of my home and it felt like a switch went off. I seemed to be under the impression that I no longer…

I Value My Son More Than Work

The book Born Resilient was released in December, and the cover featured our 6-year-old son, Malcolm. Ironically, 7 months later he was forced to put his own resilient nature to the test. In June, my wife and I discovered a large mass in Malcolm’s stomach. The situation progressed quickly, and we soon received a call to discuss our options with the surgeon. Unfortunately, the appointment fell on the morning of a speaking event. In 10 years, I never missed a single speaking event. I love my work, but I love my son more. With only three days before the event,…

The Risks and Rewards of Being Vulnerable

It took me a long time to be comfortable talking publicly about my issues of addictions, mental illness, and sexual abuse. I used to underestimate the power of a story, and its unique ability to connect with others. Last week I received the e-mail below, and it served as a great reminder that few things are as sacred or as powerful as someone’s story. With her permission, I would like to share it with you.   This is Sarah, a participant at your workshop. Your message changed the way I view my current struggles with depression and anxiety. You showed me that…

The 6 Words that Saved My Life

Shame is toxic, and it damn near killed me. After being silent for so many years, it is time to put a voice to my own pain and healing from sexual abuse. I spoke about this in a recent blog “The 2 Most Powerful Words: Me Too” However, rather than write more about this, I am posting this video. No matter what you are going through in life, please just know that you are not alone.  

Are You Existing or Are You Living?

I believe that there are two types of people in this world. There are those who exist, and then there are those who live. Which one are you? To exist is easy. It is like being on autopilot where every day tends to repeat itself. In this state, you do not step outside of your comfort zone, you do not take risks, and therefore you do not grow. People who exist are more likely to stay in the same unhealthy relationship, go to the same job they dread, and simply serve their time in the game of life. To live,…

Persistence Pays

A woman approached me today after delivering a presentation, and with a slight edge to her tone she said, “I am so jealous. I envy people like you who make speaking seem so easy. I wish I could do what you do.” It can be easy to make judgments based on someone’s professional performance, and yet we forget the time and energy that they invested into their craft behind the scenes. What this young woman did not see was the countless challenges I had to overcome to get to this point. She never saw me as a young man, standing…