You Were Born Resilient

You were born resilient, and you were born to fight. My latest book Born Resilient: True Stories of Life’s Greatest Challenges has received criticism over its title. The argument is that we were not born resilient, but rather that resiliency is a skill we must acquire. I don’t dispute that, but don’t tell me you didn’t come into this world with a resilient and fighting spirit.  You came into this world kicking and screaming.  If someone chokes you what is your immediate reaction? You fight. If someone puts your head under water, what do you naturally do? You fight. I…

I Value My Son More Than Work

The book Born Resilient was released in December, and the cover featured our 6-year-old son, Malcolm. Ironically, 7 months later he was forced to put his own resilient nature to the test. In June, my wife and I discovered a large mass in Malcolm’s stomach. The situation progressed quickly, and we soon received a call to discuss our options with the surgeon. Unfortunately, the appointment fell on the morning of a speaking event. In 10 years, I never missed a single speaking event. I love my work, but I love my son more. With only three days before the event,…

The Next Generation of Men Are Watching

I met many men this week who have carried their pain for too long. Our body spends great amounts of energy trying to keep emotional pain suppressed within. I strongly believe that darkness begs to see the light of day, and that healing begins when we put a voice to our pain. When we neglect painful emotions, they have a tendency to escape in unhealthy and inappropriate ways. For example, I spent years being so angry and yet I had no idea why I was even angry. Anger is a secondary emotion, and in order for me to heal I…

Born Resilient: A Sneak Peak Into Chapter 1

While it is easier to deflect your pain, the only way out is through. Our reaction to physical pain is not the same as our reaction to emotional pain. When we experience a cut or a broken arm, we are quick to act, and will immediately tend to our wound and try to progress towards healing. On the other hand, when we are injured on an emotional level, we rarely give this wound the immediate attention it deserves. This is unfortunate because emotional pain has the capacity to impact our lives to a much greater degree than physical pain. Unmanaged…