Men and Suicide: It's Time to Talk

  Lately, I’ve received a lot of messages from men who are really struggling, and I have a very legitimate fear that as we continue to navigate through COVID-19 we are going to see an increase in male suicides over the next few months. Men, we are dying by suicide at a rate that is three times higher than women. Why? Well let’s look at some of the headlines out there. Women seek help. Men die.   I get it, asking for help doesn’t come naturally for us. I have stood at the fork in the road. I flirted with…

Addiction and Cancer: Treating Diseases Differently

  Brad has seen how people treat diseases differently. When he was going through addiction, people crossed the street to get away from him. Meanwhile, when he was going through his cancer treatments, people wanted to get closer to him. Whether Brad was battling addictions or cancer, he was still the same person suffering. His experience speaks volumes to the stigma that still exists around drug and alcohol addictions. Education and understanding will reveal that we all deserve love and respect.        Brad’s story Becoming the Father I Knew I Could Be   is featured in MENtal Health:…

Healing Words from the Former Humboldt Broncos Assistant Coach

I don’t know about you, but I found it really difficult to examine my pain. It was easier to project my pain onto others, turn to alcohol in an attempt to escape it, or immerse myself into work. Healing is work.   Chris Beaudry reminds us of this truth. Now, it’s impossible to comprehend what Chris pulled up to that fateful April evening, and what transpired over the following days. But what is evident is that in order for Chris to heal, he had to go through the middle of his pain. The following video explains not only what he saw as…

10 Years Sober and Proud

Today marks 10 years of sobriety.  I am emotional even writing that. The reality is that nothing in my life would be possible without my sobriety. Nothing. I would not be blessed with a beautiful wife, four incredible sons, and a home not a house. From day one my wife, Tanya, said we were moving forward, not backward. She was (and always will be) my rock. I want to share 3 key lessons that I have learned along the way. 1. Use Your Voice in Times of Need Silence has never equalled strength. Staying behind closed doors can make us…

3 Life Lessons While Watching My Son Fight For His Life

Early June, 2018 my wife, Tanya, and I discovered a large mass in the stomach of our six-year-old son, Malcolm. The situation progressed rapidly, and what transpired over the next few months was one of the most challenging experiences of my life. It’s one thing when you are the person facing a particular battle, and it’s quite another when you must helplessly watch someone you love fight their own battle. The lessons I learned were numerous, but I want to share three.   1. Never minimize your pain Early in this experience I struggled to put a voice to my…

You Were Born Resilient

You were born resilient, and you were born to fight. My latest book Born Resilient: True Stories of Life’s Greatest Challenges has received criticism over its title. The argument is that we were not born resilient, but rather that resiliency is a skill we must acquire. I don’t dispute that, but don’t tell me you didn’t come into this world with a resilient and fighting spirit.  You came into this world kicking and screaming.  If someone chokes you what is your immediate reaction? You fight. If someone puts your head under water, what do you naturally do? You fight. I…